Hi, anon!

I completely understand your worries. I don’t think you’re the only one on here with worries about keeping up the communication between you and your LDR SO. It’s totally understandable.

My main advice here would be not to stress out over things you can’t control. And by that I mean, you can’t control what his roommates are going to think or say or do if you guys talk more so than other couples. You have a big distance to deal with, and I hope they’re understanding. At the same time, if they’re not, and that affects the way your SO communicates with you, that would be something to bring up with your boyfriend. I really do believe openness and honesty are two of the most important ingredients to a successful relationship. And while it might seem scary to bring it up to your SO, just remember that you deserve to be fulfilled in every which way.

Now, there is another side to this, which will come maybe a bit easier down the line, and that is making sure there is a balance between your communication with your SO and both of you living out your lives as individuals. If your SO chooses to hang out with his roommates or friends versus talking to you every once in a while, don’t hold it against him just like he shouldn’t hold it against you if you do the same because while you are a couple, you are also individuals with your own interests, social lives, etc.

All in all, anon, I just want to assure you that as long as you keep honest, open communication but also respect each other, it’ll all be good. You have a wonderful LDR support community on here. We’re here for you. ❤️