I just happened to come across your “this is for you” post tonight. I immediately started sobbing. My boyfriend is in the military and not one person has said that to me. I know I’m not the only one to go through it, I don’t deserve some special props. But thank you. Seriously.

Dear anon,

I just saw this message. Thank you for sharing that. I’m so sorry you cried though! Richard and I are giving you huge hugs!!!

We just so passionately believe in everyone having the positive support they deserve – and that includes you, anon!

We love you all!!!

Love,

Cat

I’m going to be in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend soon once he moves about 8 hours away and I want to be able to keep with the communication every day/night but I’m scared his roommates will get annoyed and we won’t be able to talk. Do you think I should be worried? What should I do? I’m really hoping our LDR will work..

Hi, anon!

I completely understand your worries. I don’t think you’re the only one on here with worries about keeping up the communication between you and your LDR SO. It’s totally understandable.

My main advice here would be not to stress out over things you can’t control. And by that I mean, you can’t control what his roommates are going to think or say or do if you guys talk more so than other couples. You have a big distance to deal with, and I hope they’re understanding. At the same time, if they’re not, and that affects the way your SO communicates with you, that would be something to bring up with your boyfriend. I really do believe openness and honesty are two of the most important ingredients to a successful relationship. And while it might seem scary to bring it up to your SO, just remember that you deserve to be fulfilled in every which way.

Now, there is another side to this, which will come maybe a bit easier down the line, and that is making sure there is a balance between your communication with your SO and both of you living out your lives as individuals. If your SO chooses to hang out with his roommates or friends versus talking to you every once in a while, don’t hold it against him just like he shouldn’t hold it against you if you do the same because while you are a couple, you are also individuals with your own interests, social lives, etc.

All in all, anon, I just want to assure you that as long as you keep honest, open communication but also respect each other, it’ll all be good. You have a wonderful LDR support community on here. We’re here for you. ❤️

Life Update

Hey, you guys!

I’m sure you’ve noticed that we’ve been a bit quiet with the 90 Day LDR Challenge as of late, and I wanted to explain why.

Don’t worry! Richard and I are solid. 🙂 but recently, Richard has been dealing with a strong stomach bug, and he hasn’t been feeling 100%. We love doing the challenge together. So, we decided to take a pause while we get his health sorted out. We thought that he would be okay last week when he got a course of antibiotics, but they weren’t strong enough. But just today, his doctor gave him stronger antibiotics, and we’re hopeful these should do the trick!

We’re keeping our fingers crossed, and I would appreciate any positive thoughts you could send Richard’s way!

We really do love you guys, and we just wanted to let you know we have not nor would we ever forget about you all!

Lots of love,

Cat

If you’re in a relationship and your girlfriend/boyfriend asks you “are you okay? “

muvakita:

uhigh:

wordplayqueen:

Don’t lie to them. If y’all are in love, tell them what’s bothering you. They care. It’s okay to be vulnerable with them. Don’t tell them “yea I’m okay” and you’re not, because then you’ll be mad at them for not understanding your hurt when YOU HAVEN’T EVEN EXPLAINED IT to them. People can’t read minds. Give them the chance to listen, give them the chance to understand. Let them love you okay, communication is key.

this is soo important omg

^ !!!

Took me such a long time to understand this. I finally understand how important this is. Give into the fear of being vulnerable with your loved one – it’s so worth it!

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 7

Day 7: What was it like the first time you two talked?

Cat: Well, while we were still messaging each other OkCupid, our messages flowed really well. And luckily, that carried on into our first date! We talked about all the things “they” tell you not to talk about, ha! But his intelligence and expressiveness just made him even more attractive to me, haha!

Richard: From what I can remember, it was really fun and relaxed. 🙂 I specifically remember we talked a lot about American things, haha.

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 6

Day 6: How often do you see each other in person? What about over video chats?

We haven’t visited each other yet, but we will be seeing each other for our 3-year anniversary! T-minus 84 days!!! I can’t wait!

We try to Skype every other day, but it just depends on our schedule. Sometimes over the course of a week, it could be more than that, but other times, depending on what we have going on, it could be less. We really try to be open-minded and flexible with it all!