Tag: 90 day ldr challenge

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 22

Day 22: What do you think are important qualities for two people to have in a long distance relationship?

Cat: I think honesty is one of the most important qualities for two people in a LDR. I think there are a lot of emotional obstacles that come along with the greatest physical obstacle (distance), and if you can’t be honest with yourself and your partner about how you feel every step of the way or how you envision your future when you close the distance… I can only imagine that it would be incredibly difficult… And I’m not going to lie: It’s scary to be honest sometimes! Maybe you don’t want to ruin a good week or your love bubble, and trust me, I get that! But I think being honest with yourself and your partner will only help you in the long run.

Richard: Communication is very important. I find we do well, as we speak every day but in a way where we get on with our own lives. We don’t make each other feel bad if we aren’t able to Skype or if we’re busy etc.

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 21

Day 21: If you haven’t met yet, what’s the first thing you’re going to do together? If you have met, what’s the first thing you’ll do when you see him/her again?

Cat: After almost 8 months of not seeing him, I’m going to give him a huge hug and a big kiss! Is it September yet? Haha!

Richard: I imagine a long kiss! I’m not sure what our plan is after the airport, but I imagine we will have dinner with Cat’s mum and have a nice catch up.

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 19

Day 19: Have you ever given them something of yours? What was it?

Cat: I gave Richard my stuffed animal otter when I traveled back home in January…

Richard: When Cat flew back to the US in January we swapped a fragrance of ours so we can remember what we smell like. I also have one of her otters haha.

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 17

Day 17: Have you ever watched a movie together? Which one(s)? Which ones would you like to watch together?

Cat: Yes! We’ve watched a lot of movies together:!the entire Harry Potter collection (Deathly Hallows Pt. 2 at least 5 times – Richard was such a good boyfriend to sit through all the replays of that, haha!), Filth, The Campaign, Foxcatcher…

I can’t wait to watch Get Hard with Richard. He’s going to laugh so hard!

Richard: Yes lots! Too many to mention really but Harry Potter, Hunger Games, Zoolander, The Campaign and lots of other comedy films. We also watched a lot of musicals on film. Definitely a benefit of having lived together.

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 16

Day 16: Name something your partner dislikes about themselves but you love!

Cat: Okay, guys, I’m not going to lie to you: This prompt really stumped Richard and I! We actually had no idea how to answer this one… I guess I’ll just say this: Richard really is one of the most confident people I know, and I think it’s because he had to overcome a lot of adversity at a really young age. We both have that in common. While it hit me hard in my teenage years, especially when it came to body image issues, Richard went the other way. After overcoming everything, he took all that negativity and transformed it into positivity. It wasn’t overnight, and he hit some hard times. But at the end of it all, he became the strong, confident person he is today. So, because of that, I think there’s very little room in Richard’s mind to hate or dislike things about himself. And I love him for that. 🙂 

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 15

Day 15: What are your favorite things to do together when you’re apart?

Cat: I love it when we get to Skype with each other. I’m sure that’s a typical answer for a lot of people in LDRs, but it makes my day when I can see him! We still haven’t watched a movie together or played a game online together. Things have been so crazy in our lives lately that it’s tough to have anything like a date night go on. But I’m happy just being able to see him. 🙂 

Richard: Hmm, well we keep in touch a lot via text, but I like it when we get to Skype since I get to see her. I did buy us both DS so we could play mario kart together, but the time difference and everything being hectic for both of us means we haven’t quite got round to it yet, but I hope we will at some point. I really liked playing the DS with Cat when we were living together.

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 14

Day 14: What was your first kiss like? If you haven’t kissed yet, what do you think/hope it will be like?

Cat: It was everything I had hoped it would be and more. 🙂

Richard: It was really nice haha. We were sat in Piccadilly Gardens in Manchester at night, and I remember lots of football (US friends, read: soccer) fans going past. So, that was a bit surreal, as well as the fact that we had been speaking for a good few months with Cat all those thousands of miles away, and all of a sudden we were together. I remember walking Cat back to her hotel where we kissed again, and then some guy driving past said “Get a room!” Haha! Unfortunately, Cat was staying with her mum at that point so that wasn’t an option 😀

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 13

Day 13: What are some things you two have in common?

Richard: Overall, although we can come from different view points on quite a few things, we actually tend to come to the same conclusions. 

Cat: For example, I was raised Catholic, but I’m much more spiritual than religious now. Richard is atheist. While we basically come from opposite ends of the spiritual spectrum, haha, we both agree on the same moral values. Our different POVs make for great discussions, and it’s really fascinating to me because it’s pretty cool to see how our conversations can start from opposite ends of the spectrum to finding common ground and agreement.

Richard: On a less philosophical note, haha, I’d say – We both love going to restaurants. We love pets (although I prefer cats, and ironically Cat likes dogs!). We both really like musicals. We love city breaks, and we generally have the same political views.

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 12

Day 12: How did you tell your family and friends about your relationship? Were they supportive? What about your partner?

Cat: The night before I met Richard for the first time, I remember telling my mom about him. I was really nervous because my mom is a traditional woman, and I was waiting for her judgment to rain on me about online dating, etc. But she was surprisingly really cool about it! She really had my back the night that Richard and I went out. In retrospect, I’m glad my mom was there when I met Richard.

Throughout our relationship, Richard has made such a great impression on the rest of my family and friends, and all of my friends are actually happy that we’re going so strong. And while a couple of my aunts had silly comments to make about our LDR, I took it all with a grain of salt. One of them has become bitter about love since forever, and the other has been with the same man since high school, never having to deal with distance or any other kind of obstacles. Sometimes, understanding where the negativity comes from is 80% of the battle.

Richard: My mum and I are really close so I did tell her that we were going on a date. I told her how lovely Cat was and she was really happy when I told her that we were in a relationship. They actually met relatively early on, my Mum and I had booked tickets for a band that we like (she’s cool, what can I say), and we all went to a latin american restaurant and they really hit it off. My Grandma really liked the sound of Cat, and I was so glad when they met for the first time at Christmas when she was visiting in London for my graduation. And yes, they hit it off as well!

My best friend Ste was really happy for me when I told him about Cat, and everyone loved Cat whenever we went to parties together. So yes, nothing but good things. 🙂

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 11

Day 11: Name 5 random things about your partner!

Cat on Richard:

1. He loves cinnamon, especially if it’s incorporated in anything sweet.
2. He loves playing scary games on his PS4.
3. He has an incredible memory – he will remember something I tell him casually months and months later. It makes his gifts/gestures that much sweeter. 🙂
4. You know those random facts on quiz shows that make you go “How would anyone know that?!” Richard is the kind of person who knows those insanely obscure facts. #nerdalert #hesmynerdtho
5. He’s an incredible baker and cook!

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Richard on Cat:

1. Cat loves Otters
2. Cat has a strong relationship with cheese and cheese based dishes, especially Mac N cheese.
3. Cat loves Harry Potter (and loved it when I took her to the Harry Potter experience for her birthday in 2013!)
4. One of Cat’s favourite places to visit is Virginia Beach, especially because she has so many good memories with her Dad there.
5. Cat ironically isn’t a big fan of cat’s (although she makes an exception for Mrs. Whiskers*)

*yes, Mrs. Whiskers is Richard’s cat, ha!