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90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 11

Day 11: Name 5 random things about your partner!

Cat on Richard:

1. He loves cinnamon, especially if it’s incorporated in anything sweet.
2. He loves playing scary games on his PS4.
3. He has an incredible memory – he will remember something I tell him casually months and months later. It makes his gifts/gestures that much sweeter. 🙂
4. You know those random facts on quiz shows that make you go “How would anyone know that?!” Richard is the kind of person who knows those insanely obscure facts. #nerdalert #hesmynerdtho
5. He’s an incredible baker and cook!

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Richard on Cat:

1. Cat loves Otters
2. Cat has a strong relationship with cheese and cheese based dishes, especially Mac N cheese.
3. Cat loves Harry Potter (and loved it when I took her to the Harry Potter experience for her birthday in 2013!)
4. One of Cat’s favourite places to visit is Virginia Beach, especially because she has so many good memories with her Dad there.
5. Cat ironically isn’t a big fan of cat’s (although she makes an exception for Mrs. Whiskers*)

*yes, Mrs. Whiskers is Richard’s cat, ha!

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 10

Day 10: Write a little letter to yourself about what you hope for your relationship in the next few weeks.

Dear Cat,

I hope your relationship with Richard keeps growing day by day. I hope you keep learning new things about him and from him. I hope you keep laughing – even at his horrible puns. I hope your love for him keeps growing. Not long until he comes to visit. T-minus 64 days!!! 

Love,

Cat

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Dear Richard, 

As we’re nearly in September I don’t have any particularly dramatic hopes. However, I hope Cat and I stay as strong as we have been and can spend some time planning what we’ll get up to when I come to visit. By the time I visit, it will be 8 months since Cat left to head back to the States, but I know from the moment I get there until the moment I head back, it will be as if we have never been apart.

– Richard

Life Update

Hey, you guys!

I’m sure you’ve noticed that we’ve been a bit quiet with the 90 Day LDR Challenge as of late, and I wanted to explain why.

Don’t worry! Richard and I are solid. 🙂 but recently, Richard has been dealing with a strong stomach bug, and he hasn’t been feeling 100%. We love doing the challenge together. So, we decided to take a pause while we get his health sorted out. We thought that he would be okay last week when he got a course of antibiotics, but they weren’t strong enough. But just today, his doctor gave him stronger antibiotics, and we’re hopeful these should do the trick!

We’re keeping our fingers crossed, and I would appreciate any positive thoughts you could send Richard’s way!

We really do love you guys, and we just wanted to let you know we have not nor would we ever forget about you all!

Lots of love,

Cat

If you’re in a relationship and your girlfriend/boyfriend asks you “are you okay? “

muvakita:

uhigh:

wordplayqueen:

Don’t lie to them. If y’all are in love, tell them what’s bothering you. They care. It’s okay to be vulnerable with them. Don’t tell them “yea I’m okay” and you’re not, because then you’ll be mad at them for not understanding your hurt when YOU HAVEN’T EVEN EXPLAINED IT to them. People can’t read minds. Give them the chance to listen, give them the chance to understand. Let them love you okay, communication is key.

this is soo important omg

^ !!!

Took me such a long time to understand this. I finally understand how important this is. Give into the fear of being vulnerable with your loved one – it’s so worth it!

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 7

Day 7: What was it like the first time you two talked?

Cat: Well, while we were still messaging each other OkCupid, our messages flowed really well. And luckily, that carried on into our first date! We talked about all the things “they” tell you not to talk about, ha! But his intelligence and expressiveness just made him even more attractive to me, haha!

Richard: From what I can remember, it was really fun and relaxed. 🙂 I specifically remember we talked a lot about American things, haha.

90 Day LDR Challenge: Day 6

Day 6: How often do you see each other in person? What about over video chats?

We haven’t visited each other yet, but we will be seeing each other for our 3-year anniversary! T-minus 84 days!!! I can’t wait!

We try to Skype every other day, but it just depends on our schedule. Sometimes over the course of a week, it could be more than that, but other times, depending on what we have going on, it could be less. We really try to be open-minded and flexible with it all!

Opening Up

Hi, guys! 

So, I’ve never really opened up on here, but I thought that as we’re approaching 300 followers (OH. MY. GOD. THANK YOU! WHAT?!) that I would share something personal with you.

My mom has been away for the last 2 months, and all day, I have been thinking about how excited I am that my mom is coming home tomorrow morning. It makes me laugh a bit because not even a year ago, it would have been something I dreaded. 

You see, my mom and I haven’t always been on the same page – and that’s an understatement in regard to some situations. And one of our biggest fights came when she met Richard for the first time. Putting it lightly, she was not excited about the fact that I was in a serious, committed relationship with him. 

I think some background information here would help: When my mom was 21, she almost lost everything in one of the deadliest earthquakes in recorded history. 70,000 people died due to the earthquake and the landslide induced by its aftershocks. My mom lived under a dining room table for two weeks until she was able to contact an uncle of hers, who picked her up and took her, my aunts and my grandmother in. From that moment, my mom devoted every ounce of her being to making a better life for herself and chasing the American Dream. And she achieved that Dream. And when she adopted me, she was at the sweet spot we all dream of: She was married to her soulmate. She was working a job she loved and gave her stability, and she was living the white picket fence life in the suburbs of the DMV area. So, naturally, she must have envisioned my soulmate as someone who would be able to offer this kind of life, if not better, especially because she worked so hard to come from nothing to become something.

Then, Richard came around. When I met Richard, he had just graduated from university and was on the job hunt. But more importantly, he proved to me that he had a heart of gold, incredible ambition, a great sense of humor, and a sincerity that still touches me to this day. From my perspective, he wasn’t where he wanted to be, but at 22, who is unless you’re a global superstar, a genius or the child of a billionaire? No hate on any of those people, but they’re rare, which is partly what makes them so cool. Anyways, Richard wasn’t where he wanted to be, but I could tell he had all the elements to get him where he wanted to be.

But my mom couldn’t truly focus on any of that. Instead, she focused on all of the negative: He didn’t have a master’s. He wasn’t 100% sure where he was going with his career. He wasn’t 100% sure how he was going to make it work when I moved to London. More than anything, the thing she didn’t like the most was the fact that he wasn’t someone she ever thought that I would end up with.

So, what’s my point? Why am I saying all this? 

When I go through the LDR tags on here, I can’t tell you how many times I see people seeking out advice for fighting the haters, handling the expectations, etc. I am so glad we have this amazing community on Tumblr where we can all come together and support one another when we face the negativity. I’m so glad the LDR community on here is incredibly supportive and most of all, empathetic.

So, I just wanted to say to all of you: When you know, you know. Keep fighting for the love you have. If your SO has a positive effect on you, makes you see the world in brighter colors and in higher definition, helps you get through your darkest days, does away with your darkest thoughts with just a simple call or a text: Gain strength from that! And if your parents, friends, etc. can’t see how happy you are, how you glow with every step and how you grow into the person you were destined to be because you have someone as amazing as your SO: KEEP. FIGHTING.

I know first hand how difficult it is to get off every phone call with your mom and be absolutely broken and devastated. I know what it’s like to see my mom off at the airport with angry tears streaming down my face. But when I look back at those bumpy times in my life and Richard texts me or calls me, I realize I made the best decision I have ever made in my life. And that feeling, not knowing your gamble was right but knowing that your gamble fulfilled your destiny, that’s worth fighting for.

Love, 

Cat